Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Mitzen's avatar

Thank you for this broader context, it’s definitely helpful to understand their purpose and how they’re referenced across multiple cases. In seeing the outcry over the recent, highly publicized letters, I think it’s important for us to continue to talk about what’s so upsetting to people about this. I think most people commenting like to imagine themselves as more aligned with Miechkowski’s sister’s position if they’re feeling generous, or Kathy Griffin’s position to communicate how reprehensible they see the actions of those accused/convicted in these cases. On the one hand, people need supportive relationships as part of their rehabilitation and accountability process. But there is all too often a line crossed into enabling reprehensible behavior that happens in these types of cases. That enabling is felt most intensely by survivors of sex crimes or other forms of abuse. I think once we figure out how to better support survivors and hold perpetrators accountable then many of these discussions about the letters themselves will be more productive. I was disappointed by Ashton and Mila’s letters but I understand that Masterson needed someone to write them for the judge to consider. So it’s extremely complicated. Especially as a therapist in a domestic violence program where I hear often about how support for abusers is felt intensely as betrayal and re-traumatizing to survivors in light of all they’ve suffered. That’s what stood out for me with Iggy Azalea and Stefflon Don’s letters. I know they are both keenly aware of how rampant abuse of women is in the music industry, and hip hop specifically (Iggy’s alleged abuser was Playboi Carti). In short, it’s complicated. I know it has to get done but I hope that the people writing these letters are not enabling their loved one’s bad behavior or ousting victims in the process. Hope all that makes sense and thank you again for continuing to educate us about how the legal system works in all kinds of cases. Your work is much appreciated 🙏🏾

Mick Roberts's avatar

I read the article with an open mind, and here’s my opinion. You seem to be equating Masterson’s case, convicted by a jury of two counts of forcible rape, with the case of two men who at least somewhat accepted responsibility for their horrible crimes by pleading guilty, which Masterson has never done. You also seem to be equating this with other individuals found guilty of things like white collar crimes, drug possession, perjury, and bribery.

Those latter crimes I don’t think can even begin to equate with the crimes of someone who took all of the premeditated steps necessary to drug and violate his victims in the most personal way imaginable, which, from my understanding, causes a degree of damage that none of us who have never been sexually assaulted (not to mention being blamed, silenced, harassed, stalked, and Fair Gamed by Scientology) can even begin to fully comprehend. Writing a character letter for a convicted perjurer vs a convicted serial forcible rapist are two completely different things.

The Iggy Azalea letter you referenced is the only one that can even be slightly comparable, and even that might be a bit of a stretch, since, from my understanding (admittedly limited), his attack was not premeditated to that extent and there were not multiple victims over a number of years, and thus, there is no pattern of criminal behavior that was established here. That doesn’t make Lanez’s crime any less horrible, and he deserved to be sent to prison for his vicious attack, but it’s not fair to compare writing a character letter for him to a character letter for someone like Masterson, in either direction.

You also reference character letters from some of the family members of these other individuals. As it relates to Masterson, it is no shock at all to me personally that his mother and siblings and now estranged wife would write letters on behalf of their family member. In fact, it would be a shock if they didn’t write those letters. That’s another unfair comparison you’re making as it relates to Ashton and Mila doing so.

What is so different about the Ashton and Mila letters is that, before writing these letters extolling his "virtuous character", Masterson was already convicted of multiple counts of a horrible crime, along with what many consider to be credible allegations of other similar attacks on other women in the same manner whose attacks were not charged in this trial. Ashton and Mila were also very close friends of Masterson (Ashton in particular) during the time most of these attacks took place and they even knew some of his victims personally, and yet they still wrote these letters after he had been found guilty.

Also, Masterson has yet to accept responsibility for his actions (which I assume might also be a bit retraumatizing for these women, but I nor anyone else can or should speak for them). All of that, along with the fact that Ashton and Mila have claimed that they support victims of sexual assault, which shows their gross hypocrisy, seems to indicate that they don’t truly believe any of these multiple attacks from their convicted friend actually took place.

That was pretty evident to me and many others with their sham of an apology video. When you use words like “if” after an apology (“we apologize if that [people thinking that we may be questioning the validity of the victims] has taken place”), that makes it very insincere and only blames the person you’re attempting to apologize to for "taking it the wrong way". In essence, it negates any attempt at sincerity in their apology, because what they’re basically saying is that it’s YOUR fault if you’re upset about what they did, not theirs.

There have also been allegations made of the sort where it seems very plausible, perhaps even likely, that Ashton may have known full well what his BFF was doing back then. That makes these letters, and Ashton’s letter in particular, even more damning.

People (including Ashton and Mila) have every right to write letters on behalf of defendants (such as Masterson) during sentencing. Judges have every right to take those into consideration in any way they see fit, at their discretion. However, people on the outside looking in (including those of us who you might consider to be less intelligent as it relates to the criminal justice system) also have every right to make their opinions known about these letters.

This article seems to be trying to tell everyone that we shouldn’t be upset about Ashton and Mila writing those character letters. That admonition also seems to extend to Masterson’s victims. I don’t think it’s appropriate for any of us to tell victims of sexual assault and extreme harassment from Scientology, even if you’re doing so indirectly, how/what they should or shouldn’t feel, act, say, think, or do.

Those are just my (rather lengthy) thoughts.

1 more comment...

No posts

Ready for more?